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The one where we talk about uncomfortable truths

Season: 2
Episode: 8
Seryna Myers is a coach who helps recovering-people-pleasers get raw, real, and honest about how they truly feel. In particular with the uncozy emotions like anger and resentment and guilt and all of that kind of stuff that comes with being a people pleaser.
Episode type: full
Hosts:Jenny Midgley and Sarah Madras
Contains Explicit Content: yes

Full Show Notes

We’ve been told to be nice and Seryna feels like being nice is the curse of the modern woman. It is the thing that really gets in the way of us chasing our dreams, speaking up, or honoring ourselves. We don’t prioritize ourselves because we’re so busy taking care of everybody else because that’s what nice girls do.

“When I’m fighting with my spouse, I will even say I’m really sorry for how I said that but I’m not sorry for how I feel.” – Seryna

Emotions are not something we should be sorry for, but they are all valid.

We talk about the culture of apologizing especially for women.

Seryna shares about her journey in dealing with anger, going from avoiding it to dancing with it. She spent time in her early 20’s as a phone sex operator and she believes this contributed to her not dealing with her anger.

We spend time unpacking how as women we often feel compelled to fulfill certain roles in social situations.

Seryna shares her experience with dealing with uncomfortable truths. She dealt with body image issues in her 20s. She had an awareness that if she stayed on her current track she could end up with serious health issues, but she didn’t care. She even went so far as to try to make herself undesirable so she could feel safe. She had a traumatic sexual experience around that time.

We talk about the importance and power of empathy and just being willing to sit with someone going through something difficult as opposed to trying to fix them. This allows them to feel like they belong because they are accepted where they are and that can be transformative.

There was a time when I was afraid of the intensity of my own emotions. After years of hardship and growing up too fast, I’d developed a chip on my shoulder that it took years to heal – and if I’m honest, it’s still a work in progress.

I know I’m not the only one.
I’ve spoken to women in almost every corner of the world, and very few are comfortable with their anger. We’ve never been taught how to express it, we’ve been shamed when we do, and many of us have been in the scary position of dealing with someone else’s inability to cope with how they feel.
Even in spiritual circles, this topic is dismissed as ‘low vibe’ and dismissed as being an expression of the ego, when in reality, anger can be our greatest teacher, if we let it. It’s big stuff. It’s universal. Denying our anger gets us nowhere. It’s time for a new approach.” – Seryna Myers

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